Multiple roles of a man

Which one survives, dies or thrives

The 30s are tricky period. Till 20s you can survive with a student or young earner tag. In the late 20s, you experience what the freedom is. And, when you start feeling you can do whatever you can and reach wherever you want to in life. Now you’re in your 30s and most likely you got punched at your face.

Why 30s are so tough

A simple answer is roles that each person plays. If you’re not a heir of millionaire this is a period you’ll be trying to make your own space. World is tough place to live, its obvious you’ll be loaded with thoughts on your profession.

Also, this is the time your body will search and more likely grabbed a partner to live with. This is the time to fulfil your spouse’s expectation. Its a double whammy - one side you’ve to spend your effort to stabilise your profession, on the other hand you’ve to navigate through the expectations at home.

The first face, you show to the world. The second face, you show to your close friends and your family. The third face, you never show anyone. - A Japanese proverb

Instead of faces, if we consider the roles that each person plays, asked to play and wishes to play the whole equation gets too complicated to solve in a single life.

My life my rules stage

Lets say you’re living a well planned life, you’re possessing a much envied work-life balance. How will your day look like?

The perfect life

As you get older, you’re presented with responsibilities. Lets say you’ve to take care of wife and kids.

Roles and Responsibilities

Power comes with responsibility - Uncle Ben

As you availed the power of freedom with your earnings, you get the resposibility of keep up with the expectation. By the time you reach 30 your experiences almost a decade in the field. So, you’re expected to handle the tough situations. Also, in personal life you’ll be facing several new challenges - spouse, child(ren), and so on.

To handle such challenges you have to wear several hats and don new roles which you may not be familiar with.

4 Dimensions

As the role in your personal life expands, so does the responsibilities in your workplace. Believe me, if the growth lags in either work or personal life the unsymmetry results in bigger trouble.

Setting priority

As you start spending more and more time on earning and fulfilling the obligations you tend to allocate lesser time to yourself.

Self gets lower priority

After few months/years of forgetting what you as an individual desires, it leads to burnout or in worse cases leads to bad habits. The bad habits are intriguing guys. Once we make a friendship with them its tough to let go off them.

To avoid the burnout and keep ourselves sane its necessary to grow some hobby alongside us. The hobbies are the best way to feel complete when you are down.

Time Management

The opportunity cost is huge tax we pay at this age group. The time is of essence. The hobby that you chase will eat the time allocated for being son/father/husband/employee/etc.

It’s essential to manage the time well. The tug-of-war happens in real time against one another, in multi dimension, proporitonal to the roles you’re willing to play.

Some of the world renowned achievers are not so good for their spouse, kids or sometimes lacks friends. For them they prioritised their time on their field of expertise. These are rare occurrence.

Some of the adults in my closer circles have dedicated for their offsprings, they don’t even aware of the concept of spending time/effort for themselves. This forms the majority chunk of the population. This is the average adult.

Priority is everything

Whether you become an achiever in your field or a an average adult who pass on a better life to the next generation depends on what you prioritize.

With time being a very limited resource, to which role we prioritize, decides the rest of the life. This alone decides which roles lives, dies or thrives.

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